What’s Wrong With Me? Why You Can’t Work It Out Alone

What’s wrong with me? If you’ve asked this and can’t find an answer, discover why self-analysis keeps you stuck — and how therapy offers clarity.

If you’ve ever thought, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I figure this out?” — the truth is, you’re not supposed to.

When your attachment system has been compromised, you can end up believing you have to work everything out on your own. But that belief sets you up for endless rumination and self-criticism, because you’re analysing yourself with a built-in prejudice. You can’t see yourself clearly from the inside.

That’s where therapy matters. You don’t have to guess who you are, or how others see you. A therapist sits outside the loop — without that prejudice — and can reflect back the important truths you can’t access alone.

It’s not about weakness — it’s biological design. We’re meant to understand ourselves in connection with others. Therapy gives you that missing mirror: a perspective that helps you make sense of your story, without turning it against yourself.

If you’re open to trying, even for a short first session, therapy can be a chance to find out something new about who you are. Even a free 15 can bring some clarity.