Many people come to therapy with a feeling that is difficult to put into words. They might say: “I don’t really know who I am.” “I don’t know what I want.” “I seem to become a different person with different people.” “I don’t trust myself to make decisions.” “I feel like I’m playing roles rather than being myself.” Often they assume there is something wrong with them. In reality, there may be a very understandable developmental reason for this feeling. We Learn Who We Are Thr

Understanding Emotional Unpredictability If you grew up around emotional unpredictability, criticism, coldness, or stress, your brain learned to scan for threats. Over time, social media can reinforce that pattern. The algorithm notices what you stop for. If you repeatedly watch betrayal stories, narcissism content, red flag videos, or relationship trauma posts, your feed slowly becomes a mirror of your emotional world. Your brain is constantly building expectations based on

Why do I pull away from people? Pulling away from people often isn’t about not caring. It’s a pattern where connection is wanted, but at a certain point begins to feel difficult to stay in. The pull toward disappearing She cancelled forty minutes before she was due to leave. She’d been looking forward to it earlier in the week. But somewhere around six o’clock, the thought of getting there, being present, being responsive for two hours, began to feel heavier than expected. Sh