You feel love for your partner. You’ve chosen them. You can see what’s good in the relationship. And yet, somewhere inside, there is a strong internal reaction when the relationship moves forward at certain junctions. It might feel like restlessness. Or pressure. Or a flicker of wanting space that feels confusing, even disloyal. You might find yourself thinking: Why do I feel this when nothing is wrong?Why does closeness sometimes feel like a weight?Why does part of me want t

How capable people carry too much You’ve built a life around capability. Being capable. Keeping going. People rely on you. You can make it through anything. From the outside, life looks intact. Inside, though, something feels different. It’s heavy. You’re tired. And yet a part of you still says, I can keep going. You might call it stress. Tiredness. Losing your edge. Feeling flat. Whatever name you give it, it can feel like pushing forward through thick ground, still moving,

Finding the right therapy can be a transformative step towards better mental and emotional health. Glasgow offers a wide range of therapy services tailored to meet diverse needs. Whether you are seeking support for anxiety, depression, relationship issues, or personal growth, the city’s therapy landscape provides numerous options. This guide will walk you through the most common types of therapy available in Glasgow, how to choose the right one, and practical tips for making

Most people have a clear idea of what grief is meant to look like. It’s expected to arrive after an obvious loss. A death. An ending. Something visible. And sometimes, that is exactly how grief unfolds. But there is another kind of grief — quieter, less obvious — that runs unseen through a large proportion of the difficulties that bring people into therapy. It doesn’t announce itself as grief. It shows up indirectly. When something feels unfinished People often arrive in ther

Many people come to therapy because something about their emotional life doesn’t quite make sense. They notice ups and downs — waves of energy, stretches of flatness, periods of drive followed by collapse — and they start to worry. Am I unstable? Is something wrong with me? Why can’t I just stay steady? Often, these highs and lows aren’t signs of a typical recogised mood disorder at all. They’re patterns the nervous system has learned over time — ways of coping, regulating, a

Pre-marital therapy offers a thoughtful space to explore how people experience emotional tension, closeness, and difference as they prepare for commitment. As relationships deepen, moments of sensitivity naturally arise. Understanding how you respond in those moments — and how your partner responds — can support connection, steadiness, and growth over time. Marriage brings shared life, shared decisions, and shared emotional moments. Taking time to understand emotional respons

A pre-marital check-in for understanding relationship styles Pre-marital therapy offers a space to explore how people experience closeness, difference, and emotional intensity as they prepare for commitment. Marriage brings shared life, shared decisions, and shared emotional moments. Understanding how you respond during those moments — and how your partner may respond differently — can support steadiness, connection, and mutual understanding over time. Emotional styles in clo

Five Common Relationship Patterns Rooted in Early Adaptation People come to therapy for various reasons — burnout, anxiety, relationship difficulties, emotional flatness, or a vague sense that something isn’t right. However, the same early patterns often lie beneath these issues. Below are some common ways these patterns manifest in adult life. They aren’t labels or diagnoses; rather, they are recognisable adaptations — ways a system once learned to stay safe, connected, or v

A trauma-informed, attachment-based formulation of over-caring and self-sacrifice Conceptual Summary (for psychologically minded readers) Some people organise their sense of safety around caring for others. Not as altruism or people-pleasing, but a trauma-based attachment strategy that develops when early emotional care was unreliable or absent. Compulsive caregiving reflects an inverted attachment pattern, a missing internal experience of being cared for, and the adoption of

Why some people give too much — and can’t stop: Some people don’t just care about others — they organise their entire being around caring. They step in automatically, take responsibility without being asked, and ask for nothing in return, even though it costs them deeply. This isn’t just generosity or altruism. It’s a survival pattern. How compulsive caring develops When a child grows up emotionally neglected — unseen, unsupported, or left to manage alone — they don’t simply

Not in a vague or philosophical way —but in a “why do I keep doing that?”  way. Why you react so strongly in certain moments and not others. Why you step in, rescue, withdraw, comply, overthink, harden, please, or disappear — often without choosing to. Why you can feel warm and generous in one situation, then oddly detached or self-focused in another. And why other people seem wired so differently. Some people bend. Some people push. Some people feel everything. Some people f

Many of the people I work with come to therapy having already tried other approaches. Some have had counselling — and for many, it has been genuinely helpful. They’ve felt listened to. Their experiences have been validated. They’ve had someone walk alongside them during difficult periods of their life. That kind of therapeutic relationship matters. It can be deeply containing and meaningful. And yet, a familiar sentence often appears quietly in the room: “I understand myself

I recently saw a post claiming that chronic stress is the biggest determinant of lifespan. Like most viral health messages, it wasn’t wrong — but it also wasn’t quite telling the truth. Because when we talk about stress , we often imagine busy diaries, poor sleep, long hours, or too much caffeine. What we talk about far less is the quiet, background stress of living without enough emotional connection. The kind that doesn’t spike and settle.The kind that hums. Many people I m

Over time, she began to notice a pattern. During stressful periods, she’d withdraw emotionally. She became quieter, more inward, less playful. The parts of her that were curious, light, and spontaneous slowly faded into the background. Not because she was depressed — but because staying emotionally open felt effortful. She didn’t describe herself as stressed. She was functioning. Responsible. Capable. But her body carried a constant sense of tension, as though it never quite

Many of the people I work with are high-functioning adults who appear to be doing well on the outside. They perform strongly at work. They’re capable, reliable, often successful in demanding roles. Others may see them as coping well — even thriving. Yet they come to therapy because something has shifted. Often this shows up as burnout, though not always as simple exhaustion. Instead, people describe a more subtle, internal change: feeling less emotionally connected to the peo

If you’ve ever found yourself longing for someone who sends mixed signals, pulls close then withdraws, or gives you intense connection followed by silence, you’re not alone. Two forces are working together: 1. Childhood emotional neglect 2. The dopamine–intermittent reinforcement cycle Together, they create a powerful emotional and neurological pull that can feel almost impossible to break. This is a pattern rooted in your early emotional wiring and reinforced by your nervous

Signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect in Adults Many adults make it well into their 30s, 40s, or even later before realising their anxiety, shame, or relationship struggles connect back to something subtle that happened in childhood — or more accurately, something that didn’t happen. Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) isn’t about dramatic events. It’s about the quiet absence of emotional responsiveness, understanding, or support. Nothing explosive. Nothing “obvious.” And that’s

Many adults come to therapy saying: “I don’t know what I feel.” “I’m just… fine.” “I disconnect without meaning to.” “I struggle to find the words.” This isn’t apathy or a lack of depth. It’s a form of emotional disconnection , often shaped by childhood experiences or chronic stress. Understanding Emotional Disconnection Emotional disconnection can be confusing. It often feels like a fog that prevents you from understanding your feelings. This disconnection is not a sign of w

You tell yourself you’re fine. You’re strong, understanding, patient. You don’t ask for much.But deep down, there’s that quiet ache — the sense that something’s missing, that you’re always giving more than you receive. You try to be reasonable, to not ask for too much. You tell yourself your partner’s just stressed, tired, not great at talking about emotions. You make excuses because you love them  — and because part of you still believes that if you’re kind enough, patient e

When You’re the One Everyone Relies On — But You’re Running on Empty From the outside, you look like you’re doing great. You show up, get things done, stay calm under pressure. People trust you. They depend on you. But lately, it’s taking more out of you than anyone realises. You wake up already tense, your mind racing with to-do lists before you’ve even left bed. You’re exhausted but wired, too used to holding it all together to know how to stop. You tell yourself, “I should